I have been dating a girl for two years now. She and her friends go out 2-3 times a week and get excessively drunk. How can I make her realize that I’m not comfortable with that? They make me feel like I am the problem.
Rick B., Radcliff
K.G. – You can’t make a person change their behavior. You have been dating her for two years and for two years she has been going out 2-3 times a week and getting excessively drunk with her girlfriends. She sees nothing wrong with it and obviously has no interest in changing her lifestyle. This is a not small issue in my opinion, this is a big deal.
Wrong or right, your girlfriend likes to party and parties a lot. It is her choice to live this way.
On the flip side, you have the right live as you please. It sounds like you need to decide where you want to be in two years. If you want to be married with children and she wants to be in the hot new club with her girlfriends, you want completely different things.
I’m sure your girlfriend is a lovely person, but her lifestyle is completely different from yours. You need to be with someone that is more aligned with want you want out of life. The time has come for you to be honest with yourself and make the hard, and long over due decision to end the relationship.
I work out of my house, but make a trip out for coffee everyday. It is amazing how many women are at the coffee shops. What does a guy need to do to establish a relationship at a Heine Brothers of Starbucks without looking like a perve?
James W., Louisville
K.G. – I love this questions, it is so sweet. Just say hi! You need to be a little slick about it of course. Try to get in line behind her or add more sugar to your coffee when she is at the counter doctoring up her beverage. Once you are beside her, make small talk with her. If she smiles and is receptive in talking to you, introduce yourself, and ask for her number. I promise she will not think you are pervert. She will go right out to her car and call her best friend to tell her all about the cute guy she met at the coffee shop that asked her out.
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